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What to do when my partner doesn't understand my boundaries?

What to do when my partner doesn't understand my boundaries?

There is a very specific kind of fatigue that I often see in people who have tried to maintain boundaries in relationships: they are no longer just sad about being crossed. They start to feel tired fr...

Aug 21, 2026

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Understanding Needs to Connect

Understanding Needs to Connect

"If I ask you: What do you want in a relationship? Perhaps you would answer very quickly." But if I ask: "What do you really need to feel safe, loved, and to be yourself?" Would the answer still be ea...

Aug 17, 2026

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Four Attachment Styles: Are You Loving from Safety or from Fear?

Four Attachment Styles: Are You Loving from Safety or from Fear?

In a relationship, some people feel quite calm when their partner needs space. Some are very sensitive to small changes in the behavior of their loved one. Some crave intimacy but when the relationshi...

Aug 13, 2026

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What to Do When Triggered? (P3)

What to Do When Triggered? (P3)

Trigger: When the Past Touches the Present (P1) Why Are We Triggered? (P2) From automatic reactions to conscious responses "The goal of healing is not to no longer be triggered, but to recognize when ...

Aug 5, 2026

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Men Can Also Be Victims of Sexual Abuse

Men Can Also Be Victims of Sexual Abuse

"The most painful thing about sexual abuse is sometimes not what happened. But the fact that the victim spends years asking themselves: Is it my fault?" When it comes to sexual abuse, most of us often...

Aug 3, 2026

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Why Are We Triggered? (Part 2)

Why Are We Triggered? (Part 2)

When the current reaction is created by past experiences "What makes us react strongly is not always what is happening right in front of us, but the meaning that the brain has assigned to it many year...

Aug 3, 2026

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Trigger: When the Past Touches the Present

Trigger: When the Past Touches the Present

"Not every strong reaction comes from the present. Sometimes, what is reacting is a part of us that is still living in the past." Have you ever reacted more strongly than you expected? Perhaps you hav...

Jul 31, 2026

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People Pleasing: When pleasing others causes you to lose yourself

People Pleasing: When pleasing others causes you to lose yourself

Is always prioritizing others really a good thing? In many cultures, especially in Asia, we are often taught that a good person is someone who knows how to sacrifice, knows how to yield, and always pu...

Jul 29, 2026

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Don't Just Watch "50 Shades": 3 Truly Engaging BDSM Movies You Didn't Know About

Don't Just Watch "50 Shades": 3 Truly Engaging BDSM Movies You Didn't Know About

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Jul 24, 2026

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Attachment Styles: The Invisible Compass in Every Relationship

Attachment Styles: The Invisible Compass in Every Relationship

Before a person enters any relationship, whether it is a conventional love or a Dominant/submissive (D/s) dynamic, they carry with them an internal map formed from their early years. This map determin...

Jul 21, 2026

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The most dangerous Red Flag is not jealousy. It is when someone does not respect your Consent and boundaries.

The most dangerous Red Flag is not jealousy. It is when someone does not respect your Consent and boundaries.

How do we usually identify Red Flags? When it comes to Red Flags in a relationship, most people will immediately think of fairly obvious signs like excessive jealousy, control, manipulation, anger, or...

Jul 14, 2026

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You are not stuck in your relationship. You are stuck in patterns that you have not recognized.

You are not stuck in your relationship. You are stuck in patterns that you have not recognized.

Have you ever felt like everything keeps repeating? You feel anxious, overthink, frustrated, unheard, or no longer happy in your relationship. You realize something is wrong, but then everything conti...

Jul 10, 2026

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