REDISCOVERING YOURSELF IN A CONFORMIST SOCIETY
We are living in a society that values conformity, where norms, rules, and definitions of 'right and wrong' are increasingly dense. Everyone is trying to blend into the crowd, to become a version that others desire. But deep down, everyone longs to be understood, to do what they love, to live without judgment. Everyone wants to be special, but fears being different.
And then, within the constraints of these molds, people begin to seek a place where they can breathe, where they can remove all masks to return to their primal self. For me, BDSM is one of those spaces.
BDSM IS NOT JUST SEX
BDSM is still a concept that is rarely discussed correctly. Movies or popular stories only depict a small part of its surface - something that is easy to be curious about but easily misunderstood. In reality, BDSM is a language of connection, a journey of psychological - emotional - physical - trust experiences between people.
Because there is no formal educational channel, information about BDSM is often distorted or associated with deviance. But if you strip away the layers of prejudice, you will find that it is about consent, safety, deep understanding, and respect.
For me, BDSM is a healing and liberating process.
It helps me turn inward, listen to my body, and touch the dark corners of emotions that I used to avoid.
It teaches me to trust, to set boundaries, and to accept others without judgment. It allows me to be free to be myself, in a safe, healthy, and consensual space.
CHILDREN GROWING UP IN SILENCE
Many of us are born into traditional Vietnamese families, where love is often expressed through responsibility, rarely through warm words or hugs. We are taught to obey, but seldom taught how to love ourselves, how to say 'no', or how to express emotional needs in a healthy way.
Growing up in that silence, many lose connection with themselves.
Some struggle to find work that they are passionate about. Some live their whole lives to please others. Some are afraid to confront their true sexuality and nature.
And there are those who are luckier, starting to look back, learning to listen to themselves, and finding their way back.
THE MORE CIVILIZED, THE FURTHER AWAY FROM ONESELF
We still call this era 'civilized', but are we really freer?
The more conveniences we have, the further we drift from the voice of the unconscious. We easily judge what is different from us, forgetting that even identical twins are not completely the same, and no two eggs are exactly alike.
Each person is a unique world formed by experiences, memories, beliefs, and wounds. And we only have one life to live.
But are you 'truly living' or just 'existing'?
Are you happy being the 'perfect version' that society forces you to be?
And if no one sees you anymore, who will you be?
THE ROAD BACK
No one else can give you that freedom.
Only you, when you dare to look inside, dare to live authentically, and dare to accept every part of yourself, can find true peace.
You don't need to live to please anyone. You just need to live to please yourself.
When you feel relieved, satisfied, and happy, that is when you have truly lived.