Maturity Means Knowing Yourself and Respecting Differences
People grow through lessons, experiences, and even life’s upheavals. Yet some never truly mature because they haven’t discovered who they are, what they want, or what they need to do.
From birth, we are like a blank sheet of paper. Our first knowledge comes mostly from family, school, and society—what I call “borrowed wisdom” that helps us survive and develop. As we grow, we continue learning from experience and begin to form our own understanding—not just from books but from personal feelings and observations.
There’s a familiar saying: “Not everyone is suited for BDSM,” but if you’ve never explored it, hold off on judging or dismissing it. You may not be interested, but that doesn’t mean you need to belittle those who are.
Imagine you work in sports—you know your discipline well, understand anatomy, and can treat injuries—but your tech skills will never match those of an IT specialist. Would you accept being mocked for not mastering software? You’d likely say, “That’s not my field or priority, so I haven’t invested much time in it.”
Sexuality is just as diverse as fashion or technology. BDSM is simply a personal choice, a “spice” to keep life from becoming monotonous. Like cuisine: eat the same dish every day and you’ll get bored, so we mix and match ingredients to create new flavors. Today you might crave Vietnamese food, tomorrow Japanese, next time Thai—each with its own ingredients and methods that enrich your palate.
Some people are passionate about psychology, eager to observe and analyze human behavior. Others shrug and say, “I can barely understand myself, why worry about anyone else?” Preferences vary, and that’s perfectly normal.
Sex, reproduction, and connection are basic human instincts—there’s no reason to deny or diminish them. Curiosity and the drive to explore are part of human nature: some delve into technology, others into relationships, sexuality, or BDSM. Without those willing to study these topics seriously, where would accurate, thoughtful resources for learners come from?
We should learn to respect every form, viewpoint, and orientation instead of blaming fate or criticizing what we don’t understand. In the end, it’s our differences that create the richness of the world—something to value and be grateful for.
