Have you ever heard of wax play – the little candle wax game in BDSM? If not, now is the time to explore a fascinating new world where non-burning candles become the "secret weapon" of those who are passionate about sensation play. Not only does it provide a thrilling experience, but safe candles also allow you to experiment without the worry of injury. So, what are non-burning candles, how are they used in wax play, and which types are suitable? Let's find out with Elena!
What is Wax Play and Why Do You Need Non-Burning Candles?
Wax play is the art of dripping candle wax on the skin in BDSM, creating a warm sensation mixed with a bit of light pain – just enough to stimulate without being too scary. It’s a great way to refresh your “intimacy,” increase closeness, and explore your own limits. But don’t rush to grab that scented candle from the table, as not all candles are safe!
Regular candles (such as decorative candles or Yankee Candle scented candles) have a high melting point (120-170°C), which can easily cause serious burns. In contrast, burn-safe candles are designed with a lower temperature (below 50-60°C), ensuring that the wax is only warm to the touch and does not cause any harm. For the discreet BDSM community, this is the essential "companion" for safe wax play that is still full of excitement.
See more: Things you need to know about Wax Play
Popular Safe BDSM Candle Types
1. Soy Wax Candle
- Melting temperature: approximately 49–82°C (depending on the formula).
- Features: Made entirely from natural soybeans, skin-friendly, melts quickly and cools down fast when it comes into contact with the body. Soy wax provides a gentle warmth, is less likely to cause burns, and rarely causes irritation.
- Ideal for: Beginners trying wax play, or those who enjoy a gentle sensation, not too "extreme."
- Note: Soy wax is slightly sticky, so you should prepare a soft cloth or makeup remover to clean up after playing.
2. Paraffin Wax Candle
- Melting temperature: approximately 47–65°C.
- Features: Provides a more noticeable heat sensation than soy wax but remains within a safe range if used correctly. The advantage is that it is easy to peel off the skin and leaves minimal residue.
- Ideal for: Experienced individuals who want to experience a slightly stronger heat sensation.
- Note: For beginners, paraffin can be a bit hot, so it's advisable to test from a higher distance before pouring it directly onto the skin.
Paraffin candles are a "medium" choice, stimulating enough while still being safe. You can explore more unique versions in list of all types of non-burning candles.
3. Massage Candles (Massage Oil Candles)
- Melting temperature: approximately 40–50°C.
- Features: This is the safest type of BDSM candle, usually a blend of soy wax and carrier oils (jojoba, almond, coconut oil). When melted, the wax turns into warm oil that can be used directly for massage. It not only provides pleasure from wax play but also moisturizes the skin, enhancing the bond between two people.
- Ideal for: Those who enjoy a blend of romance, relaxation, and gentle stimulation.
If you want to add a little romance to wax play, fragrant candle in a sexy body shape, non-burning is the perfect suggestion – both visually appealing and versatile.
Types of Candles Not to Use in BDSM
To ensure safety, you need to avoid:
- Beeswax candle: melting temperature above 62°C, can cause burns.
- Industrial scented candles: contain colorants and chemical fragrances that can increase temperature and cause irritation.
- Multicolored decorative candles with glitter: contains additives, not for skin, risk of burns and allergies.
Advice: There is no type of candle that is absolutely "burn-free". Even safe BDSM candles can cause burns if you get them too close or use them incorrectly. Always test on a small area of skin before engaging in actual play.
How to Use BDSM Candles Safely
1. Choose the Right Type of Non-Burning Candle
Not all candles are suitable for wax play. For safety, choose:
- Soy wax candle: low melting point, skin-friendly.
- Paraffin wax candles: hotter than soy wax, creating a stronger sensation.
- Massage candles (massage oil candles): the safest option, suitable for both wax play and skin moisturizing.
❌ Avoid using beeswax candles, industrial scented candles, multi-colored decorative candles, and those with glitter.
2. Check the Temperature Before Use
- Burn the candle and let the wax melt into a liquid form.
- Try placing a drop on the back of your hand or wrist to check the temperature.
- If it's too hot, keep the candle further away from the skin or wait a few seconds before dripping.
3. Maintain a Safe Distance
- Pour the wax from about 20–30 cm to reduce the temperature when the wax touches the skin.
- If you want to increase the feeling of heat, gradually shorten the distance, but always test first on less sensitive skin areas.
4. Choose a Safe Location on the Body
- Recommended: back, shoulders, chest (wide areas, less sensitive).
- Avoid: face, neck, genital area, areas with open wounds or irritated skin.
5. Combining with BDSM Experience
- Wax play can be combined with blindfolding, bondage, or playing music to enhance the excitement.
- Pour the wax at a slow pace, changing the distance to surprise your partner more.
- Combine with massage candles for both wax play and a relaxing massage afterwards.
6. After Finishing
- Use a soft cloth or oil to wipe off the wax from the skin.
- Apply moisturizer or aloe vera to soothe the skin.
- Avoid taking a hot shower right after playing.
7. Safety Principles to Remember
- There is no such thing as an absolutely "non-burning" BDSM candle – there are only those that cause less burning.
- Always have a "safe word" to stop immediately when the partner feels too much pain.
- Prepare cold water or a wet towel in case the skin becomes excessively hot.
Conclusion
Non-burning candles are one of the "must-have" items for those who are passionate about sensation play – safe, exciting, and full of creativity. From gentle soy wax candles, warm paraffin, to versatile massage candles, you have countless options to try wax play. With the BDSM candles at Elena's House, you will easily find your "true love." Enjoy wax play safely, passionately, but still with full control.
