BDSM Ideas: A List of Popular BDSM Games (P2)
11. Collaring
A collar is one of the most powerful symbols in BDSM, representing ownership, submissive status, and commitment in a D/s relationship. For many, the collar can hold a similar meaning to a wedding ring, especially in collaring ceremonies where the sub is officially recognized as belonging to their Dom.
Collars come in many forms: from leather collars with names engraved, to simple, discreet collars, but all carry a clear message: the wearer accepts the dominance and control of their partner. Many collars are also designed with locking mechanisms or attachment points for leashes, opening up possibilities for control or integration with other bondage play.
For a long time, collars have also been symbols of care and ownership, similar to pet collars, making them the perfect symbol for D/s relationships, from dominant-submissive couples to slaves in BDSM.
Read more: Collaring - The Symbol of the Collar and Levels in BDSM
Collars can have many different meanings in BDSM relationships
12. Cuckoldry
Cuckold is a term used to refer to a husband (or male partner) who tends to be aroused by witnessing or knowing that their wife or partner is having relations with someone else. In BDSM, cuckoldry is seen as a form of psychological play that involves humiliation, power, and intentional degradation, where feelings of jealousy are transformed into pleasure.
A cuckold can directly witness, hear about, or simply know that it has happened, and it is the struggle between pain – desire – helplessness that creates the sexual excitement characteristic of this form.
However, cuckoldry is easily misunderstood and hindered by social prejudices or individual psychological factors. Therefore, if you or your partner wish to explore, start with honest communication, respect, and absolute consent.
When practiced correctly, cuckold play is not just a sexual game, but can also become a deeper understanding of trust, control, and personal boundaries within a relationship.
Read more: What is cuckolding? A safe and practical guide for those who want to explore
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13. Cum denial/Orgasm Denial
Orgasm denial is a form of pleasure control in BDSM, where participants are kept in a state of heightened arousal but are not allowed to orgasm. This causes sexual energy to build up, making every touch, command, or word much more powerful and stimulating.
The reasons many people enjoy this play can vary:
- Engaging in power exchange, where the Dom completely controls the Sub's pleasure.
- Extending the duration of intercourse, increasing the sense of anticipation and excitement.
- Exploring the depths of pleasure, focusing more on sensations and body connection before reaching climax.
- And finally, achieving a more intense orgasm after being denied for a long time.
This play can be carried out through commands, supportive tools, or chastity device, but regardless of the form, the most important thing is still the consent, trust, and clear communication between both parties.
Read more: Learn about orgasm denial
14. Edge play
In the BDSM community, Edgeplay is a term used to refer to extreme forms of play that go beyond conventional safety boundaries and challenge both the physical and psychological limits of the participants. This is the 'edge' area of BDSM, where activities can pose a risk of serious harm, even life-threatening, if not performed correctly.
Edgeplay can include behaviors such as knife play, choking, blood play, firearms, real knives, or extreme psychological forms, depending on the abilities and consent of the participants.
Because edgeplay lies outside the safe zone of the SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) principles, many who pursue this direction apply the RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) model, which means being aware of the risks and having informed consent.
Note: Edgeplay is not for beginners. It requires knowledge, skills, absolute trust, and extremely clear communication before, during, and after the play session. Safety measures, emergency signals, first aid equipment should be well prepared, and there should always be a supervisor when needed.
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Edge play helps a person push their limits and enjoy new pleasures
15. Electro play
Electro Play is a form of electrical stimulation in BDSM, providing completely new sensations, from light tingling and aching to exciting jolts, depending on the intensity and type of equipment used. This is a game that combines physical pleasure and psychological stimulation, as players are both curious and excitedly awaiting each electric pulse running through their skin.
Common devices used in electro play include nipple clamps, dildo, butt plug, sounder, or electro pads. Many products are specifically designed for BDSM, while similar technology is also applied in medicine such as muscle stimulation (EMS) or pain relief (TENS).
The sensations from electro play are often not as painful as many people think, leaning more towards a tingling, light stinging, and highly stimulating feeling. However, the level of safety completely depends on the equipment, the area of use, and the experience of the players. Never use electricity near the heart, head, or neck.
Read more: Electrical play. Learn about electrical stimulation in BDSM
16. Face slapping
Face slapping is a form of BDSM that involves power dynamics and strong emotions, often used in scenes of punishment, testing limits, or enhancing the feeling of submission. This action can occur as part of a sexual play or as a demonstration of the Dom's power over the Sub.
However, since the face is a sensitive and vulnerable area, face slapping requires skill, control, and absolute consent. A misplaced or overly strong slap can cause pain, skin damage, ear injury, or even affect the jaw.
Before proceeding, lightly slap your own face to feel the intensity and limits, then clearly communicate with your partner about the acceptable level. And most importantly:
Never slap when you are angry or losing control of your emotions.
Read more: Erotic slapping - What you need to know before playful slapping in sexual relationships
Only perform slapping after thorough discussion with your partner and with mutual consent.
17. Fear play
Fear play is any form of stimulation that uses controlled fear to create pleasure. When the body enters a state of fear but still knows it is safe, the increased adrenaline will trigger strong arousal, which is the foundation of this play.
Fear play can occur at psychological or physical levels:
- At the psychological level, it taps into existing fears such as fear of abandonment, fear of humiliation, feelings of helplessness, or the tension of not knowing what will happen next.
- At the physical level, fear play can manifest in forms such as medical play, knife play, or fake kidnapping roleplay, where players are placed in stimulating situations but always within the agreed-upon safety limits.
Fear play directly impacts the psyche and nervous system, so it requires careful negotiation, establishing boundaries and safe signals, along with absolute trust between the two.
Read more: Information about Fear play - fear play in BDSM
18. Fisting
Fisting can be performed on any gender, with two common forms: vaginal fisting and anal fisting. Those who enjoy anal stimulation such as pegging, enemas, and milking are often drawn to the experience of having their partner's hand 'received' inside their body.
This activity requires time, practice, and patience, as the body needs to get used to the stretching. Start with simple steps:
- Warm up with small toys, a butt plug, or a few fingers.
- Wear medical gloves to protect both parties from bacteria and to avoid accidentally scratching with nails.
- Use plenty of lubricant, as slipperiness is a key factor in ensuring a comfortable and safe experience.
Fisting is not just a technique but also involves trust, relaxation, and continuous communication between the giver and the receiver. When done step by step correctly, it can become a profound, powerful, and deeply connecting experience in BDSM.
Read more: What You Need to Know About Fisting
19. Flogging
Flogging is a form of impact play that uses a whip to create sensations on the body to enhance pleasure. The level of impact is usually light to moderate, softer than caning or whipping, but still depends on the strength of the hand, the material, and the size of the whip.
In addition to being used as a form of 'punishment' in a D/s context, flogging is also a great way to evoke emotions, increase arousal, and make the sexual experience more intense and vibrant. When practiced correctly, flogging helps the body release endorphins, providing a pleasant high and a deeper connection between the two people.
Read more: What You Need to Know About Flogging and Safe Flogging Techniques in BDSM
Flogging is a relatively gentle form of impact play.
20. Food play
Food play can have sexual or completely non-sexual meanings. In the context of fetish, this term describes situations where arousal comes from using food in a suggestive or sensual manner.
This form can be as simple as partners feeding each other, enjoying the taste on each other's bodies, to more 'wet & messy' styles, where excitement comes from seeing the other person covered in cream, honey, sauce, or various soft, warm, slippery ingredients.
Some common scenes in food play include: using fruits and vegetables as external stimulation tools, eating off each other's bodies, combining flavors to enhance sensations, or feeding each other as an intimate ritual. When done safely and consensually, food play can become a sensual, fun, and deeply connecting experience between two people.
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